We've been given the opportunity to adopt a little boy! Daniel, myself, and the kids are very excited, but somewhat guarded in the event that it doesn't happen. I was contacted through a friend and asked to adopt a young woman's little boy. She doesn't have the means to take care of him and has unselfishly given us the chance to provide for him. We are waiting for some important things to happen before we proceed, but the initial step was to decide if we wanted to take on the responsibility of another child. For us, the choice was fairly easy. We've had an ongoing discussion about this happening for a few years. Throughout this time, the kids have come up with great ideas and solutions and are okay with sharing their parents with another sibling whether it be us having our own or adopting. So this seems like a pretty natural progression.
I have started to realize, unfortunately, that people we know have reacted in odd ways to this news. I think through this event, we will once again find out who our friends really are. I've had some pretty strange encounters and heard about some pretty charged discussions -even referring to the race of my family. It's very sad, really. The primary concern is for a child and that's what people should focus on. People wouldn't say anything if I was pregnant and that's what I don't understand. I guess I was -again- a little naive going into this. I thought the whole race issue had run it's course! I thought that the goodness in people would show and not the ugly... all the more reason in my mind to teach another child what is good and bad, right and wrong, and what really matters in the world. I think I might just have a little more figured out about life in general.
I'm not discouraged :), just disappointed in people. On the flip side- I'm so thankful for the good people in my life that support me and my "change the world" attitude!